I’ve been wanting to watch the movie Unconditional for a while now and I’m really glad I took time to watch it. I HIGHLY recommend it. (Available on Netflix and at Christian bookstores on DVD) This story of Joe Bradford’s life is a call to action to all of us to reach out and touch the life of an at risk child who has never experienced unconditional love.
I cried as I watched the story play before me. We can get so caught up in our hurt, our pain, and our experience that we forget about those who are suffering without any hope. I am trying to do my part by spreading the word about healing and forgiveness when faced with abandonment and neglect… even still I know there is so much more hands on work to do. Truth is, my message now is reaching those who have grown up and might be looking for hope of a change in the way they feel or haven’t felt for a long time. However, I hope to one day meet the kids in the moment, in the middle of the hurt…and offer them the solution: faith in God, the eternal Father of us all.
I’m a believer because I have felt the power of love like a relentless force of magnetism to all things good, hopeful, and fulfilling in God. I’m not pushing an ideal…I’m testifying about a real, personal experience!
The blog is evidence of that.
Anyway, enjoy this teaser clip from the movie that displays some of the absent father dynamics:
I will keep you all up to date in how I’m reaching out to at-risk kids in North San Diego County so that you can join in the fight to make unconditional love a rule in our communities.
The book is still in revision but on track to be published this year! Stay tuned!
After years of therapy, I finally arrived at what proved to be an expensive place of peace about my dad-situation. -Anonymous
Therapy is necessary for more people than those who utilize the services. Yet, time drags on and on before any real progress can be made with many people. Why?
In my experience, talking about what you have suffered and what’s been done to you leaves you feeling freshly wounded. We open up, involuntarily a lot of times, to release the overwhelming pressure that will drive you insane if you hold it in any longer.
But remember, those who do talk about the past will only get help if God reaches to heal. Apart from that, these three points demonstrate the attitude we need to have going into a serious talk.
1. You accept that what has been done will not change
2. You accept that your dad will probably always be the same
3. You decide that you won’t be mad about the past anymore
Each part is essential to healing. The 3rd point is what takes up to several years for people to do. Mostly because the person doubts the validity of #2.
Don’t hold your breath waiting for a miracle completely dependent on someone else’s free will to contradict their patterned behavior. People do not change. The sooner you accept that fact, the closer you will be to simply forgiving your dad for wronging you in the first place.
If you are going to invest in therapy, make it count. Go in knowing what you have to do and just do it. Putting off the inevitable will eat right through your pockets.
You will never feel completely ready. You simply have to take a leap of faith and trust that believing things will get better. Let go of your dad. He is who he is.
Be who you are made to be. FYI: You are not made to live in a constant state of brokenness and defeat. Accept, forgive, and move on.
Even if you aren’t paying money for therapy, you’re paying emotionally for avoiding the whole thing.
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