So if unconditional love expects nothing in return… what does that look like?
Take mother’s love as an example. Any good mother will feed, care for, clean, and protect their child regardless of the kid’s temperament. Sure, it’s easier to care for a laid back, calm child. But a screaming, constantly dissatisfied child will still endlessly receive love and care.
Enter a deadbeat dad.
Loving a dad who is not around can be hard to fathom, but the key is showing him care and concern during the times you can. His birthday. His random visits (if ever). Holidays.
Many times, men are afraid of rejection. Men are terrified of being a failure. Men can also be in denial about their responsibilities. Definitely a dead beat dad.
When you show love and affection, you open a door for honest vulnerability in that your dad cannot use the excuse that your life is better without him. This is by no means true. The presence of a father empowers and energizes his children. Yes, the ideal situation includes involvement. However, contact can spark the potential only a dad can activate.
So, take a stab at loving without expectations. Surprise him no matter how unworthy he is. You never know what’s going on in his head… make it nothing but positive energy coming from you.