It’s a respect thing

Men desire two things: being needed and respect. The problem with this is that many times they don’t earn it.

During all of our lives our fathers have failed us; it’s inevitable because no one is perfect. When these failures begin to outweigh the times that our fathers have loved us unconditionally, protected us, provided for us, or cared, we begin to lose respect for them.

Respect is earned; unfortunately men think respect should be given to them freely. At any point, the typical father will demand respect simply because he donated his sperm in the process of making you but what he doesn’t realize is that although his physical characteristics are automatically present his daughter’s respect isn’t.

Women stub their proverbial “relationship toe” every time this subject pops up. As daughters grow up, their picture of men is sketched on the forefront of their brain by their father. The components of man might be a physical beast with strong hands and large shoulders but whether that same being is worthy of any type or degree of respect is dependent on their individual history. At this very time, no matter how great of a guy walked into your life, you may or may not respect him based on how you perceived your father.

Think about your father-figure; did you respect him? Many times we can like a person or think they are fun without truly respecting them. In earlier blogs, I have recommended daughters to start thinking about how their father affected their past and current life; I want you to continue to do so but this time particularly in terms of respect.

Did your father earn your respect? Is it difficult for you to respect men? Without understanding your situation, I urge you to begin go back to the blue prints and reconsider your respect for men. Whether it is your boss, coworker, boyfriend, or spouse; if you can’t respect men, a great disparity will elude you to dysfunction.


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About Caleb Fairey

A man who desires the joys of freedom for everyone.

2 responses to “It’s a respect thing”

  1. Keila Harris says :

    Reblogged this on Daddy Broke My Heart and commented:

    Learning what respect is is the first step in knowing how to respect yourself and someone else.

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