Release Resentment: Choose to Forgive
Everything in life is about perspective. Good or evil, there is a choice we have to make when we look at every situation.
In order to see your relationship with your father differently, you have to view the relationship differently. In order to gain an unfamiliar feeling, you have to transform your perception.
Choosing bitterness against your dad for the wrong he has done to you is a heavy ball and chain on your ankle. Choosing not to forgive him, regardless of how undeserving he is, puts a heavy yoke around your neck. When he is out there collecting his jar of hearts as it were (like Christina Perri sings about in her song Jar of Hearts,) you’re falling under the weight of your disdain for him. Even in your denial, the truth you have buried beneath the surface eats you alive. Your soul cries and you silence it with your false acts of strength.
I understand your hesitance. But if you must do it for yourself alone, then do so. Forgiveness is more for you than for him, especially if he doesn’t care. Free yourself by loosing him from your hold of retribution. Let God be his judge.
Choose to release him. By releasing him, you release yourself. In order to release yourself, you must choose to forgive.
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” -Mark 11:25
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong. -Gandhi