Define Father

father: one who has begotten a child, whether son or daughter; a generator; a male parent.

Many times I wonder if Webster understood what a daughter’s definition is of “father.” Today a dad can mean anything from the guy who gave you 23 of your 46 chromosomes to the man who loved you everyday since the day you were conceived. I would argue that the “genetic donor” definition is most popular among most, but does that make it correct? According to the Merriam-Webster, ” a man who has begotten a child” is all it takes to make a father.

The question every man and woman, daughter and son, have to ask themselves is how their individual life experience has formed this definition. We rarely contemplate how definitions vary but just like everything else … it’s relative. Many of us never think about how we have become the person we are or even how our hands are accomplishing their tasks, but I urge you to start.

How does this all tie together? Your definition of “father” will reflect a relationship, or lack there of, that you had with your own. Think back on your experiences; was he there? Did he love you? Did he tell you that you were beautiful? Did he hold you just because?
Okay, now for the next part; how does that definition impact your current life? In American culture today, it is practically impossible to dig deep into anyone’s emotional scars because comfort is better than pain. Break the mold. Begin to asses how your father instilled a definition into your mind then progress into how this relationship has formed you into the person you are today. Are the results positive? Negative? Most of the time it’s mixed but in order to make what has been broken whole we must acknowledge both sides, we must come face to face with what is painful, comforting, and even awkward.

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About Caleb Fairey

A man who desires the joys of freedom for everyone.

One response to “Define Father”

  1. Dalila Schoepfer says :

    It’s nearly impossible to find knowledgeable people about this topic, but you sound like you know what you’re talking about! Thanks

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